When Concerned about a Friend:

Show You Care

If you believe your friend to have a problem with substance use, show your concern by talking to your friend at a time when he or she is not drunk or high. Often talking about problematic use with another friend present is best.  Avoid blaming or shaming your friend. Express your concern by sharing your own feelings about his or her substance use. 

Try to remain calm and straightforward when explaining your concerns.

Prepare

Try to understand that your friend may respond negatively or with hostility, which may be uncomfortable to experience.  Consult with faculty, a C.A, staff, or a CSDC counselor to assist you as you face your friend.  Know what help is available, and help your friend develop a plan for help if he or she is able to face their problematic use.

Practice Self-Care

If he or she is unable or unwilling to get assistance, set some personal limits, such as refusing to make excuses or cover for your friend.  Rely on support that is available to you, such as services in the counseling center, so that you are not facing this challenge alone.  

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